I'm sure we have all asked ourselves the same question. Who am I? If we answer this ourselves which I have done previously, we end up with a list of life roles and often not so flattering adjectives to describe ourselves. The list would be different dependant on where we are in our life but more often than not it is easier to focus on the negative rather than the positive.
If I was to answer this question a few years ago the answers would be oceans apart from how I feel now.
Whilst in a depression and in the grips of an eating disorder good self esteem was way down there along with eating 3 squares meal a day. I hated myself. Everything about me; what I represented; how I looked just filled me with disgust. I felt useless, worthless, angry, bad, dirty, guilty......the list is endless. I saw traits in myself during this period that I would never have chosen in a friend so why should they have been accepting of me? At times I didn't recognise myself.
The process from then until now was slow and hard. It took strength and courage to revisit and accept things which had happened in the past, a willingness to change my behaviours and a decent support network to help me through the emotional and physical changes as well as any setbacks. Every traumatic weigh-in, tears over meal plans and the nagging e.d. voice in my head has been worth the journey to recovery.
So who am I now? I asked 2 close friends to describe me in two words. I have been given beautiful (twice) funny and effervescent. Interesting Ladies,thank you :)
Beautiful. What is beauty? Again this is something I have blogged about before. If were talking aesthetic beauty then first thing in the morning I'm very dodgy' but give me a bit of make-up and I don't scrub up too badly. I see beauty as something deeper than our facial features, the love a person radiates, the selflessness of an action, the emotion between friends.
Funny. Now this could mean funny as amusing, or funny as in strange or weird!!! I will go with the amusing.
I can get a bit carried away with myself at times and I know I can be loud. I have tried to curb this unsuccessfully! People constantly ask me I I am OK, am I ill, Is something wrong? Obviously being loud and funny is how I should be......although at times I can be very shy.
Effervescent. Bubbly and fizzy like a bath bomb or a bottle of bollinger.
I am a person who has hit rock bottom and come out the other side. Despite the traumas this has changed me in a positive way. I try to see the good in people and to not judge on appearance. Everyone has a past but it does not have to define their future' it certainly shouldnt define how we respond to them.
I am happy with my life, positive about my future and accepting of my body.
|‘For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day. People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed. Never throw out anybody. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows.’ Audrey Hepburn|