Tis The Season To Be Jolly, Fa La La la La La La la Laaaaaaaaaaa
'It's the most wonderful time of the year,' 'Eat, drink and be merry,' are two of many expressions used at Christmas. For me Christmas is about family and friends, spending time with those you love and care for, along with having time off work mixed in with some wonderful food and a decent bottle (or three) of wine.
I will not forget those who are no longer with me...... Mum and Dad will be remembered, possibly with a few happy and sad tears.
I will also be thinking of my friends who have lost loved ones over the past year. The first year is the hardest, but it does get easier. Remember the Christmas you had last year or the year before and smile. Keep that thought and they will be with you in your heart :)
I think about those in the Eating Disorder community who are still battling a dreadful illness. Christmas is possibly one of the worst times, food is just everywhere. Try not to focus on the food but focus on the positives of spending time with your loved ones. Speak to your parents/partner/friends and have a varied menu that you have some control over so you are not under too much stress. If you have a food plan, try and stick to it, It will be worth it. Have a buddy to help you out at parties, especially if you are confused about portion control.
When you eat Xmas Dinner don't beat yourself up thinking you have lost control, remember you can be the one in control and by having lunch you have controlled your eating disorder. You have kicked its ass!!!
If you feel guilty afterwards and feel the need to purge, say to yourself 'this too shall pass.' The feeling won't stick around forever, think distraction, distraction, distraction.
Text a friend, have a funny game of charades, take a walk and take in the peace of Christmas Day.
If you are on your own this Christmas think of all the things you like to do for yourself. Make the day about YOU, because you are important and worth the time.
Within all the chaos, noise, expense, mess and stress remember to take a little time for yourself. I wish you all a very Merry Christmas and hope to catch you in the New Year.